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babushka -

How do you hhhhhhh self compassion


darkhorsedouglas -

It's hard to do. My anxiety used to make me focus on my mistakes and nothing else. Like, getting nervous about something I did wrong 3 years ago.

The easiest trick I've found is to tell yourself "good job" for the small things. Did I get my dirty clothes washed today? Yes. Then I say out loud or in my mind. "Good job me." Did I stay calm while talking to a rude customer? Yes. "Good job me!"

Telling yourself good job helps with self-confidence. And helps you notice the good things you are doing. It's easy to look at the mistakes you make and think you're a bad person. But if you increase the number of times you encourage yourself it makes it easier to see the good things you are doing.

The final step is to change what you are thinking about. If you notice you are thinking to yourself that "you suck" or "you're so bad at this". Catch yourself and think of one of your "good job!" moments.

Ex. "Darn I didn't get the dishes done. I suck at being an adult." *pause* "But I did do the laundry today and cleaned up some trash in the living room. I guess I'm not that bad at being an adult."



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sounds like it'll help! thanks!!


star-rice commented:

I kind of found "self love" a bit radical, like it was too big of a step. Some people have recommended reframing it as self tolerance first. It's hard to 180 from self loathing straight into self love. Sometime just being okay with yourself is enough, and it's definitely better than not being okay with yourself. That's what helped me start being chill with existing as a singular person instead of as a ball of emotions in a ill suited vessel. I don't have to love existing or love being me, I just have to be moderately okay with it most times. That helps open the door to actually being able to self love in any meaningful way.


babushka reblogged this post from babushka:

@pinkwitchpunk a very good advice


babushka reblogged this post from autiestella:

i feel like this works for me , thanks


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pinkwitchpunk commented:

i always take a step back and try to think of myself in the same way I think of others. For most people, you are your biggest critic. Looking at yourself in the way you look at your friends or even strangers can help show you how hard you're being on yourself


autiestella reblogged this post from babushka:

stella like self-positive stuff alot, but is not easy achieve - if say self-positive stuff when not rly feel it, can make feel hurt more, cause start wonder why not live to own expectation & make words feel empty


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darkhorsedouglas reblogged this post from babushka:

It's hard to do. My anxiety used to make me focus on my mistakes and nothing else. Like, getting nervous about something I did wrong 3 years ago.


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